3. We made an effort to make visiting children feel extra welcome in our home. Most children enjoyed the personal attention and the interest that we paid them. This doesn't mean that we were phony -- we really did appreciate other children coming to visit, and by telling them so through our actions, we hope to set a good example of how we would like our son to treat his friends.

4. Up until quite recently, we found that Michael's time with another child required our constant monitoring. We didn't want to do this, but he needed it. Michael required supervision even at the age of five or six, when one would normally expect a child to be able to play independently. We tried not to hover over the children but we stayed within earshot, ready to interject if the situation seemed to be heating up.

A few final comments -- don't be discouraged too easily. We went through dozens of children before we found a friendship that worked! It is definitely worth the perseverance when you see the enjoyment your child gets from having a friend. Also you are teaching your child vitally important social skills which he or she will need throughout life.

As in all areas of life, let your child express his or her individuality. If there are times when your child wants to be alone rather than with friends, respect his or her wishes and see this as healthy, not a sign of antisocial behavior.